For many people, the word dating carries weight. It brings up images of swiping on apps, performing to be liked, or fearing rejection. It can feel like a test, a performance, or a series of disappointments.
In the Heartwork, dating is seen in a very different way. When we shift the lens, dating becomes less about playing a role or waiting to be chosen, and it becomes more about exploring, becoming clear, and ultimately, finding alignment within yourself and the person you’re calling in.
Dating Is Exploring
At its heart, dating is about discovering whether someone is in alignment with your deepest intention. You are not seeking for approval. You Love and approve of yourself and you are in the process of learning whether you and another are truly resonant.
Dating Is a Mirror
The reason dating is a mirror is because it allows us to see and understand ourselves through another person. Are we noticing qualities we truly appreciate and love? Are we witnessing things we have already worked through and can now honor with gratitude? Are we coming face-to-face with the places where there is still room to grow?
Every interaction shows us something. Dating can stretch us outside of our comfort, expand our capacity for compassion, and bring clarity to what we are truly seeking. When we allow ourselves to see dating as a mirror, it becomes a powerful practice for self-discovery and alignment, opening us to be more available for the Love we actually want.
Dating Is an Energetic Exchange
Dating is not just about questions and answers. It’s an energetic exchange. It’s feeling into whether this is someone who is truly your person, someone you want to build a life with. This kind of connection cannot be measured by a checklist, although a checklist does not hurt (that’s a whole other conversation in itself) it’s felt in presence, resonance, and shared intention.
Dating Is Practice
Like any meaningful part of life, dating is also practice. Depending on your stage of the journey, practice looks different:
- Maybe you’re coming out of a relationship after decades together and you’re learning how to meet people again.
- Maybe you’ve never been in a long-term relationship and you’re practicing openness for the very first time.
- Maybe you’re simply learning how to show up as yourself with clarity and confidence.
No matter where you are, practice strengthens the muscle of Loving again.
Dating as the Path
When dating is reframed this way, it becomes a path of alignment and choice. It’s not about playing a role, forcing an outcome, or being chosen. It’s about choosing yourself first, and then meeting others from that place of wholeness.
Through the Heartwork, dating becomes a way of deepening your relationship with yourself, while staying open to the Love that is Inevitable, and having fun along the way!
