Celebrating Pride
Some of the ways that I like to honor Pride, as a gay woman in my early 40s now, are by watching stories from history and learning about the evolution, the change makers, and the ones who had the courage to speak the truth and come out in times and places it wasn’t safe. It brings me so much pride to be alongside these incredible humans, hear their stories, understand what happened to us, and why it is so important to celebrate Pride in a way that is honoring to us now. In my late 20s and early 30s, I was dancing on the streets with a little tiny tank top and short shorts, flamboyant AF. And in hindsight, I did love this season of my life and I still have parts of this that come alive, especially during Pride!
This year for Pride weekend, I was with my gays and went to the “lesbian capital” in Noe Valley, San Francisco and saw so many people celebrating in their own way, which brings pure joy to my heart. It’s not my scene to be in the parades right now, however I love seeing the joy it brings people to be doing Pride in all the ways.
Dating during Pride
I’ve noticed from experience that those of us who are dating during Pride tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves and have expectations of “meeting someone” while we’re out and about. What I’ve seen in my dating coaching clients is that this pressure takes us out of the present moment and can also create disappointment or discouragement if meeting someone doesn’t happen. When we allow ourselves to go to places to celebrate, dance, have fun, meet our Loves, and more without this attachment, we emanate a certain kind of joy that is magnetic. I’ve heard endless stories of first dates, new love, and marriages happening during Pride that are serendipitous when we’re just having fun. Give yourself permission to be present and show off your Joy!
If you’re one of the ones that did meet someone special and started dating during Pride, here are links to a few blogs that might be helpful!
Marriage during Pride
At least in San Francisco, New York, Los Angeles, Austin, and other queer hubs around the world, marriage is happening at City Halls for Pride. So many people love celebrating their Love during this month by anchoring in this significant moment in time and creating celebration with their partner and loved ones. I just Love this Love being recognized.
What Pride can also bring up for couples (those just starting to date and those who have been together for decades) during this time are some ways that we struggle by being put in a box whether that be of parenthood, of a “traditional” relationship, of how to show our identity in a relationship, of gender roles, of masculine vs feminine energy, monogamy vs. non-monogamy and more. The LGBTQ+ couples that I work with in my Relationship Coaching practice are deeply unique to their vision and their intentions of what it means to be in their union. There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to being in a relationship. There are infinite ways to create Love, togetherness, family, etc.
An Invitation
If you want to bring intention or vision to the relationship you’re calling in, your dating life, or your marriage, and you’re curious what it’s like to be supported through the Heartwork or relationship coaching, let’s connect and begin with a Discovery Session. Together, I’d love to learn about your story, and we will also explore the Heartwork and how Empowered Matchmaking and Relationship Coaching can support you on your unique journey.
