Summer Love: 5 Ways to Create a Better Dating Experience

summer loveI like to think of June through October each year as ‘Dating Season’. The warm weather and an abundance of social events provide the perfect recipe for love connection. I also find that many people want to prepare for cooler weather and the holiday season by focusing on finding love in the summertime.

Here are a few helpful tips for those who are solo and want to be part of a duet:

  1. Be yourself from the beginning. This is critical! Don’t put your ‘date face’ on.  Let your potential love connection fall in love with who you are from day one.  This means moving past the small talk and engaging in the hard conversations early on so you can establish a good foundation.
  2. Know yourself and who you are looking for. Be clear and honest about self-reflective questions. Ask yourself “What is my intention?” “What are my strengths?” “What do I want to work on?” It’s important to embody the qualities of the person you want to be with in order to attract that person into your life. If you find that you aren’t living these qualities yet – seek help. (Hire me!)
  3. Ask genuine questions.  Instead of just asking about favorite colors and where they like to shop – ask questions like “What do you want to create in your life?” “What is your purpose?” “What are you passionate about?” “Tell me about your family?” By showing care and interest, you allow the other person to be authentic and vulnerable, moving you into relationship in a more meaningful way.
  4. Listen! Ask the question, and then listen. Engage when it is appropriate, but for the most part just sit back, reflect, and absorb what your date is sharing with you.  Learn whether they reflect the same values as you do, the important things you have in common, and discover some areas where you may complement one another.
  5. Let go of the outcome. Be in the moment. Communicate. Be open, and let go of inward focus. By detaching from any expectation you may have – you allow yourself to experience quality time and build a connection. You don’t have to know whether this is the person you will spend the rest of your life with – just focus on enjoying the time you have with them right now.