One of the many books I’ve been reading recently is Manifest Your Destiny: The Nine Spiritual Principles of Getting Everything You Want by one of my favorite authors – and people – Dr. Wayne Dyer.
The 8th principle is Patiently Detach from the Outcome.
It’s hard to follow, but oh is it worth it.
It addresses how we set specific goals for ourselves, but then start talking from the ego and subsequently get sidetracked. The key to overcoming this is knowing – at your core – that you’re aligned with what you need to be doing at this time in your life, and having infinite patience about the outcome.
For example, if one of your “I am”s is: I am financially secure – then you have to forget about your current situation and really think about what you want, what your end result looks like.
How does this relate to dating hunky men? I’m so glad you asked.
It means to just remember what it feels like to be in a relationship and don’t focus on the how or the what or on how many dates it’ll take to “seal the deal.” No! Think about what it feels like to have the end result. Or, as Dr. Dyer says, think about “the essence of your desire.”
The essence could be feeling miraculous, feeling wonderful, being in love, feeling amazing, whatever.
What does the essence of being in love feel like to you?
Focus on that – and the results will come; it’s inevitable!
The bottom line is: you’ve created a story and it’s become your life. Part of that is thinking that love is not possible for you. That you can’t make it happen and you don’t have that power.
But the truth is you do – we all do. Because we are always connected. We just need to remember that.